Urban Place

Moving from an urban/diverse environment to a more "laid back" setting how could I socialize better?

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:17:54 +0000

I hate psychoanalyzing myself because I believe that we’re all a little crazy if we dig deep enough (I guess my intention is to see if I’m crazy or not and not necessarily if everything I do might attribute to positive deviance).

But recently, I’ve been reading up on alogia and at first I thought I might’ve had it–after moving from Miami to Flagstaff–but now I’m convinced that I have selective alogia and the full-blown opposite of alogia when I’m around people who are more pragmatic, neurotic or suffering from ADD. I mean, I only find diagnosing myself with alogia when I’m around more…Westernized people. I was raised in Miami so, I guess, speech constructs don’t rank as high as the meaning that’s being attempted at…try understanding sarcasm between agressive creole-laden english, patois, cuban-accented rhetoric vs venezuelan, ebonics, etc etc etc and you get the idea.

You see, my dad was a stoner and my mom is random (albeit extremely productful; she runs a plant of 500). Plus, we’re Filipino so being loud and empathetic is natural. And as an immigrant family, we’re particularly sharp at recognizing the contrast between social norms (and doubly so around a dozen or so large minority groups). At home, I’ve been raised to enjoy and engage in conversations that jump between Tagalog and English highlighted with really random (but insightful) topics that are subject to tangent at a whim.

Anyways, I’ve moved to rural Flagstaff (and Akron, Ohio soon) and I find myself at odds in conversing with…more Westernized/(laid-back?) people. Right now, I’m compelled to diagnose myself with a Western ailment (hence learning about Alogia in the first place) just to get back into the socializing groove…we are social beings after all, independent is great but I can’t build a bridge without somone on the other side. I’m pretty sure the simple answer to this dilemma would be to just keep up with conversing/socializing with people but it’s frustrating. Any suggestions?

BTW, I’m 20 but only wrote formally for educational purposes. With contemporaries, I’m used to speaking ghetto but I know its a bad habit if I plan on making millions (unless I become famous or something). I’m taking a break from college and am realizing my brain is wired for urban life but I’m stuck here on top of a large chunk of rock.

I would just relax, heads up about progress and practicality. LISTEN. Everyone knows that you can rearrange the letters and get ’silent’. Remember everyone of us started out the same way–naked and pink. Do your thing, don’t have to people please…there are not enough hours in a day to allow for self-indulgent self-effacing. Good luch at the new school and home, Have fun. Take mind off troubles. If that’s a real diagnosis, I’d take it any day to being what I have…

Can someone give me a story idea?

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:17:51 +0000

I’m going to use my Y! 360 blog as a place for me to put a story I’m planning on writing. I will break it up into segments or "episodes". I need ideas and page hits. If I don’t get 50 page hits by the end of this week I might decide to kill the idea. Please help me with detailed story lines in this scenario:

- Modern Day
-Urban setting (Nothing rural or farmlike)
-Action Setup

If you don’t have an idea please just visit my Y!360 profile so I can get hits and while you are there maybe you could comment.

Thanks Y! Answers Community.
There is a link to this question in the "blast" of my Y!360 page which you can easily access through my Y!Answers profile. Please, I really need help with this, it is a big project.
It doesn’t have to be completley in the city. I just want a lot of it to be based in the city. Maybe something about con-artists. Hmmm… Thank you for the ideas you guys. I still need more though.
I like thesqyd’s idea about choosing between work and friends. But, can anyone expand on this a little more for me. Details, details, details.

It seems odd to me that you just want to write a story without knowing what you want to write about. If you want to write, write what you want. If you don’t have an angle to write about, try something else, man. My idea for a story may not be worth writing about to you, and visa versa.
Write what you know and what interests you.

How can I stop this man from making my girlfriend cheat on me?

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:17:47 +0000

Basically my girlfirend and I are in a long distance lesbian relationship. She was straight, but we fell in love. She’s in college in a diff country than me now and weve been together for 2 years. We got into a huge fight recently and she started talking to this guy over the internet who was starting at her college soon, we made up shortly after but this guy kept showing interest in her. He’s now in her city and a few weeks ago he asked her to meet, and kept bugging her to do sexual things with her (hand job, tit job) and she did that twice as well as kiss him. She and I have made up, and I know everyone will agree she shouldn’t have done that (me and her have only had sex with each other, and now she has with that guy) and the guy has had MANY sex partners…she just found out. But anyways, this is wrong I know…any cheating is wrong. We are in love and have a strong connection but this glitch has caused a lot of worry in me. I am staying the summer with her. I’ve met the guy 3 times and I tried to be as nice as possible. He doesn’t know shes with me or has ever been a lesbian because were keeping it quiet and he keeps flirting with her in front of me…she doesnt flirt back and tries to ignore him. The reason why she goes with him is because im her only friend and same with him now. She thinks that shell lose him as a friend if she doesnt spend tme with him..but as I read in his texts to her, he wants her to come to his appt and have sex with him. We both know hes a jerk because I made up 24 fake accounts on facebook to see what hes up to and turns out hes flirted with many of the accounts i made…he just wants sex. She knows that and I know that…he’s bad news, but no one else will be her friend at college except for him. I love this girl very much, we’re best friends as well as in love and I want her to make the right choices, but college is really stressful…I’m trying to understand why she cheated on me…but I would never do that to her…with anyone! I need a METHOD to keep that guy away…whether there’s a "cheating police" service lol that can come to his appt. when shes there and make sure no sexual things happen. ( I know she should speak up…but what if she can’t…I’ve tried to teach her to smack him in the jaw if he asks but she’s too sweet to do that.) Plus I would never hang out with any jerk like him in the first place. Bottom line…I don’t like this guy. I need to get rid of him. He has a gf but he still calls my girl his baby and his "boo" and to give him back rubs and come over (I read his texts…but my gf justs ignores them so he can kind of get the message) She told him tons of times she just wants to be friends…and she DOESN’T ever want to have sex with him. But he just keeps begging and asking and bothering her to a point where she is so stressed out she cries…but she doesnt want to get rid of him as a friend! I need to get rid of him… I NEED YOUR YAHOO ADVICE!!! WHAT DO I DO??? How can I hurt him so bad that he will leave us alone. Remember…I have those 24 fake accounts I can use on facebook…how can I get back at him to teach him a lesson…and to leave us alone. How do I possibly make sure he doesnt pester her when I’m 1000 miles away when I go back home in the fall? I really want to make sure we dont get into a fight again because the first person shell go to to talk to is him. And im sure hes got some disease. This girl does not deserve this, and neither do I. And people wonder why I like women…LOL. I can’t take it! I’m so worried! Someone please help me!!! And my email is el_urban_cupcake@hotmail.com. So if you want to add me so we can talk about this problem, you can. Thank you.

GF, you have to tell your friend how you feel, straight out! The guy needs to know that you are both an item. If he drops her as a friend after finding out that you two are an item and in love, then let him go.

If your gf isn’t prepared to do that then let HER go, because she can’t have it both ways.

You don’t need to hurt him, just be honest with him. If he can’t respect that you and your gf are in love and neither of you want to have sex with anyone else then he’s a dickh**d and blind as a bat.

What I’d do, and this is really, really wild, I’d invite him to watch you and your girlfriend making love. He’ll run a mile, I betcha! If not, well, it could be fun!

What are other places instead of michigan avenue to shop in chicago?

admin — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 07:17:44 +0000

i am a male. i love forever 21 H&M urban outfitters express and stores like that. but i want new ones like it. somewhere fresh and new. thanks so much. also anywhere with very hip club clothes for my gf.

wicker park has a lot of small scale designer stores, resale shops and larger chains. just get off at the damen blue line stop and walk around milwaukee ave. off the top of my head i know they have urban outfitters, american apparel and g-star, among others.

Where to live after High School?

admin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:18:57 +0000

I’m a male senior right now in high school and plan on moving to Boston after high school.
I have narrowed the choices of three possible neighborhoods to live in:
1. Chinatown – I mainly want to move here because I am in love with Asian culture (and women too, lol) I basically live on Japanese Anime & Manga (I have heard that a large number of Japanese leaving there) I love Chinese food and It just looks like a fun place to live.
2. Fenway – I have been around here when I was visiting a college there, although I am not planning on going to that college anymore (or any for that matter) It still looks like a lively place to live.
3. North End – I don’t really know alot about this neighborhood except for the fact that that it has approximately 100 eating establishments and I love food.
I love film and I am working hard to become a Film Director.
I also want to live in a place where they have/or are near alot of urban apparel stores too.
So I want to know, of the 3 neighborhoods which is cheaper and a better place to live in? If you can, list the pros and and cons of each neighborhood too?

Chinatown is probably the most affordable, but it’s not inexpensive either. I have a couple of suggestions. Jobs are tight here. If you really want to live here start lining up possibilities now. Just exploring, for now. It’s difficult to find a 1 br. apartment for under $1100. Look into getting a roommate. If you really want to live and work here, your best bet is to plan ahead.

Are PETA members really just urban trendy metro-sexual, liberals, fashionistas and hippies? ?

admin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:18:54 +0000

…that are out of touch with most of rural and middle America? They have little to no understanding of the culture and economies of places outside the big cities?

I wish you could have been with me at the last dove shoot we had where a local colleges PETA branch showed up. They were out there with signs and crap, and everyone went "Bird, Bird" and we fired up into the air in their general direction. And a few seconds later all the pellets began falling and they started hauling ass when the pellets started pelting them.

Seattle Treasure Hunt?

admin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:18:52 +0000

So does this make sense to ANYONE from the Seattle area got any idea what this could mean. I had an idea or 2 from the first 2 clues but thats all down hill now. I will share my findings if anyone can help

Clue 1

End here to play Seattle’s annual quest,

Meet hidden red-legged frog in the west.

A stately species with more call than bark,

Naturally admired for its blushing heart.

Clue 2

The silent coast can oft be found,

Leaping in tune with rippling sound.

Coursing in cloister, this much evolved creature,

Hiding beneath when found in nature.

Clue 3
From City’s woodland "Year of the Frog" leaps,

To a temperate locale, via bustling streets.

Feel confident heading down the right track,

No second guessing when the Zoo’s got your back.

Clue 4

Changes from green with just one degree,

Contrary to name, lives not in a tree.

Kids know the Amphibian of Washington State,

Leads a chorus of voices looking for dates.

Clue 5

Settlers leapt in and trees fast fell,

Fragile landscape soon bid farewell.

Urban vigor was built to accommodate,

Once there were more, now two less than eight.

Clue 6

Crabs from the forest met three brothers,

Then pitched to the glow, one after the other.

Told from the totems of ancient descent,

Her tears of protection etch her torment.

Clue 7

The yearn to discover may soon be quenched,

Structure your goal with respect to the French.

The bottom line is your right to reserve,

A soothing place to relax and conserve.

I think clue number 7 is the statue of liberty in Alki Beach. – replica of the one in NY

retro/urban clothing?

admin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:18:47 +0000

i love online stores like karmaloop and public domain but i don’t know where else to look. i don’t like the idea of paying $80 for three shirts. know anywhere cheaper? and if not, know any other places to find brightly colored urban clothing for girls?
um i’ve heard of like all these places mentioned. nobody knows any unique places?
um i’ve heard of like all these places mentioned. nobody knows any unique places?

Shanalogic, modcloth, fredflare, urbanoutfitters, american apparel

How did you decide on this field? Special education, that is?

admin — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:24:07 +0000

I was accepted into a teaching fellowship and placed as a special ed teacher. I knew nothing about special ed at the time and had no opinions on it. After doing this for four years, I now am passionate about the education of students with special needs, especially those in urban areas (which already has it’s own set of issues to begin with). Even though my enthusiasm for classroom teaching is beginning to wane, I still want to do something that deals with helping people with disabilities at some level. Please share how you entered this profession.

Like you, I was drawn into special ed because I couldn’t get a job in my chosen subject, PE. I had never even heard of special ed and suddenly I was teaching it. I became passionate and tried to learn everything I could to help these kids out. I ended up teaching children with emotional disturbance because I am an abuse survivor myself and had emotional problems in school, so I really knew what was going on with them.

Like you, I burned out after 14 years and so I began studying behavior analysis. I completely fell in love with it and now have been a behavior analyst for a school district for 8 years.

This is a young field on the rise and fascinating. You may want to look into it. The University of South Florida has the program, as well as others. You can even do it online while teaching, though you will need supervision when you begin working in the field.

Other very good fields are physical therapy and speech language pathology, where you help but don’t teach. Teaching is the hardest field and can and will burn you out.

Comparing 2 types of poverty: pre-industrial rural China vs. post-industrial U.S. cities?

admin — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:24:00 +0000

I am writing a paper examining poverty as a function of economic evolution. I am interested in the economic similarities and differences between poor people in rural China and America’s urban poor. Both face great hardships and barriers to advancement. What are some interesting aspects of this story to focus on?

I was inspired to write my paper by a Reuters News investigative series on poverty in places like Youngstown, Ohio.

http://blogs.reuters.com/route-to-recovery/tag/youngstown/

People in poverty in rural China can live off of subsistence farming and fishing. People in the urban areas of the US who are poor must rely on charity, a small amount of government help and often, to crime.