i’m an urban girl ,quiet ambitious abt the future,i’m pressed to get engaged to a person living in a rural place,well educated but not ambitious……we chatted and the wavelength of our coversations drifts in two planes.
my parents and relatives are really in for it.
after the initial confused "yes" i ‘m having second thoughts
should i break the engagement…
its gonna be a social question..coz we hail from a conservative family.
The guy is well educated and not ambitious is what you have perceived. Certain people, though very meticulous and well planned, generally do not exhibit it as a part of their disposition and keep a ‘happy go easy attitude’. That is the way they are! They do not beleive in being very vocal about it.
If that is not the case and you do not have any faith in the guy, you should consider your options to say ‘quits’ right now.
Just read my personal Story and you will get the answer
Although I was from city my thought were rural. I got married to my wife who’s thinking was exactly same like you. She too was pressed to marry me. As months passed she eventually started liking me and took up a challenge to change me and my standard of living. Today, I socializing, fun-loving and my wife loves me more then anybody in the whole world.
Its the the person’s company that changes the opposite person and not the place where he/she dwells from. If from your heart, a small bit of liking you have have and if you think that this Guy will love you. Go for him.
It’s not him that will make a difference for you, it for you who have to make a difference for him. Marry him, and give him that love where he can do what ever for you and then you see you will never will want to separate from him.
Best of Luck
Gice him time and buy yourself time too. See how well he can adopt your attitude and well you can adjust with him then take any major step.
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The guy is well educated and not ambitious is what you have perceived. Certain people, though very meticulous and well planned, generally do not exhibit it as a part of their disposition and keep a ‘happy go easy attitude’. That is the way they are! They do not beleive in being very vocal about it.
If that is not the case and you do not have any faith in the guy, you should consider your options to say ‘quits’ right now.
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hi,
before marriage with rural boy please think twice, since you have born bought up in urban base, after seeing films and love story at hindi films not decide. pl stay T VILLAGE MINMUM 30 DAYS AND MAKE FREE QUENT VI ST. other villages study the mentality of people. still you like the boy pl GO AHEAD. God bless you,
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Your answer lies in your question itself.
But if I were you, I would have broken the engagement, since our wavelengths don’t match. Why suffer later, if you can avoid by standing up for yourself right now and say a BIG NO.
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