Basically my girlfirend and I are in a long distance lesbian relationship. She was straight, but we fell in love. She’s in college in a diff country than me now and weve been together for 2 years. We got into a huge fight recently and she started talking to this guy over the internet who was starting at her college soon, we made up shortly after but this guy kept showing interest in her. He’s now in her city and a few weeks ago he asked her to meet, and kept bugging her to do sexual things with her (hand job, tit job) and she did that twice as well as kiss him. She and I have made up, and I know everyone will agree she shouldn’t have done that (me and her have only had sex with each other, and now she has with that guy) and the guy has had MANY sex partners…she just found out. But anyways, this is wrong I know…any cheating is wrong. We are in love and have a strong connection but this glitch has caused a lot of worry in me. I am staying the summer with her. I’ve met the guy 3 times and I tried to be as nice as possible. He doesn’t know shes with me or has ever been a lesbian because were keeping it quiet and he keeps flirting with her in front of me…she doesnt flirt back and tries to ignore him. The reason why she goes with him is because im her only friend and same with him now. She thinks that shell lose him as a friend if she doesnt spend tme with him..but as I read in his texts to her, he wants her to come to his appt and have sex with him. We both know hes a jerk because I made up 24 fake accounts on facebook to see what hes up to and turns out hes flirted with many of the accounts i made…he just wants sex. She knows that and I know that…he’s bad news, but no one else will be her friend at college except for him. I love this girl very much, we’re best friends as well as in love and I want her to make the right choices, but college is really stressful…I’m trying to understand why she cheated on me…but I would never do that to her…with anyone! I need a METHOD to keep that guy away…whether there’s a "cheating police" service lol that can come to his appt. when shes there and make sure no sexual things happen. ( I know she should speak up…but what if she can’t…I’ve tried to teach her to smack him in the jaw if he asks but she’s too sweet to do that.) Plus I would never hang out with any jerk like him in the first place. Bottom line…I don’t like this guy. I need to get rid of him. He has a gf but he still calls my girl his baby and his "boo" and to give him back rubs and come over (I read his texts…but my gf justs ignores them so he can kind of get the message) She told him tons of times she just wants to be friends…and she DOESN’T ever want to have sex with him. But he just keeps begging and asking and bothering her to a point where she is so stressed out she cries…but she doesnt want to get rid of him as a friend! I need to get rid of him… I NEED YOUR YAHOO ADVICE!!! WHAT DO I DO??? How can I hurt him so bad that he will leave us alone. Remember…I have those 24 fake accounts I can use on facebook…how can I get back at him to teach him a lesson…and to leave us alone. How do I possibly make sure he doesnt pester her when I’m 1000 miles away when I go back home in the fall? I really want to make sure we dont get into a fight again because the first person shell go to to talk to is him. And im sure hes got some disease. This girl does not deserve this, and neither do I. And people wonder why I like women…LOL. I can’t take it! I’m so worried! Someone please help me!!! And my email is el_urban_cupcake@hotmail.com. So if you want to add me so we can talk about this problem, you can. Thank you.
GF, you have to tell your friend how you feel, straight out! The guy needs to know that you are both an item. If he drops her as a friend after finding out that you two are an item and in love, then let him go.
If your gf isn’t prepared to do that then let HER go, because she can’t have it both ways.
You don’t need to hurt him, just be honest with him. If he can’t respect that you and your gf are in love and neither of you want to have sex with anyone else then he’s a dickh**d and blind as a bat.
What I’d do, and this is really, really wild, I’d invite him to watch you and your girlfriend making love. He’ll run a mile, I betcha! If not, well, it could be fun!
It takes two to tango, if your girlfriend doesn’t love you enough to be faithful to you then she is not worth the effort.
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breaking up will end all this complicated mess!
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GF, you have to tell your friend how you feel, straight out! The guy needs to know that you are both an item. If he drops her as a friend after finding out that you two are an item and in love, then let him go.
If your gf isn’t prepared to do that then let HER go, because she can’t have it both ways.
You don’t need to hurt him, just be honest with him. If he can’t respect that you and your gf are in love and neither of you want to have sex with anyone else then he’s a dickh**d and blind as a bat.
What I’d do, and this is really, really wild, I’d invite him to watch you and your girlfriend making love. He’ll run a mile, I betcha! If not, well, it could be fun!
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Are you thick or what?
If your girlfriend is really faithful to you, she would stay with you so don’t worry about that.
As for what he’s doing, it could be considered sexual harassment, so phone the police.
However, before you do that, talk with your girl. He isn’t a friend if he insists for her to give him sexual favours. Does he have anything to hold over her to press her into doing that? And as for her having no friends on the college, she could always get off of her bum and join the study group. She lets him to dictate her life… this is a shame.
And why couldn’t you two come clear with your relationship in front of him?
The bottom line, you should sue him for sexual harassment (you have evidence) or at least speak with his girlfriend. And get your girl to take some self – defence classes. There isn’ t any question if she’s too sweet or anything, but she should know at least the basics – that would also raise her self – confidence. She has to have resolve to punch, and to punch hard, when the push will come to shove – and if she continues with him, it undoubtedly will. (He would also accuse her of leading him on, if she continues doing what she does now)
And there also exist anonymous phone services who deal with those kind of troubles – they would talk your girl through it, and give her emotional support.
You are great, but you are only one. She needs to get emotional support from other people too, to be sure of herself. (She’s probably really shy type, who feels she has to be needed to be secure in relationship… just my feelings on this,)
Talk to her, and get her to see the fact. It won’t be pleasant, but it’s necessary, if you two want to keep your relationship intact.
Hope it helps and take care,
Dogsbody
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