Should i call? Very complicated situation… and im confused… 10 pts?
This is going to be a long story. Very very long story so be prepared.
Ok so, last week this girl asked me out to go shopping with her. I went to the mall with her, spent a good 6 hours walking around. I didnt know if i really wanted to date her at that time so i wasnt sure if it was a date or not…
So after going to the mall, she invited me to join her at her friend’s place. Her friend was having a sober party. So we go to the party as "friends" and the party lasts untill about 2 am… which is when everyoen else leaves and this girl tells me she’s sleeping over. She asks me to stay abit longer…
Ok so we go into the host’s room with the host and we watch a movie in the dark… up at one point, the host is kind of akward so she asks me if i’ve ever made out with anyone. I say yes i have. Then she asks the girl who asked me out if she’s ever made out. She says no.
So the host tells her. Why dont you get some practise? you have a guy right here. At that point i was kind of.. wow o_o. shocked.
But i made out with her. Then i went home.
I guess i fell in love that night…. Anyways
Two days later, we go out on a date and it was pretty crappy. I failed miserably because i didnt really plan anything out and it ended up as her taking me on the date. We went downtown and bought 3 concert tickets to a rock show fridaynight. One ticket for me and one for her and one for her friend ( i paid). After buying tickets we go back to our sub-urban neighboorhood and we have dinner etc etc…
The her friend (my good friend as well) shows up and we hang out for a bit… Eventually it gets late and i escort my new ladyfriend home. She says she’ll call friday during the day to say when we’d meet up to go down to the concert.
So on friday… I’m calling calling calling and she’s not picking up at all…
then at around 5:00 her friend (also my friend) calls and tells me to meet up. So i meet up and she comes up to me with 50 bucks and hands it to me. She says she bails out on the concert and my new girlfriend is bailing too (they were talking)… Aparently she’s having lots of trouble and not feeling well..
So i’m not sure what to do. I’ve lost some money and i have no people to go to the concert with… then at 6:18, 1 hr before we leave, my girlfriend finnally calls me. She says that she doesnt think this is the right time for a relationship and that she’s so sorry about what she’s done and she didnt mean to hurt me if she did…
I’m all like.. wtf. shocked but calm… Phone call lasted 20 seconds or less.
Later that night at around 2 am, her friend (my friend also) calls me and says that they spent the night shopping downtown… She tells me that my girlfriend was really down the entirenight and she says that she thinks my girlfriend is "unsure and confused". I ask her what the hell i’m supposed to do. She gives me her advice. She says wait it out. "if you try to talk to her, you might scare her off". she says that my girlfriend will call me when she’s calmed down. So i’m like ok.. i’ll wait…
All this time, however, i want to talk to her soo badly. I have no idea whats going on. The last time we spoke, we exchanged like 5 words. My friend is still telling me to wait it out but she isnt saying how long to wait. My other friend, however says that the longer that people wait, the more likely they’ll decide to say no to me because once you think things through, you end up saying no.
On facebook, i’ve seen that one of my friends wrote on my girlfriend’s wall asking about her "new bf"… and my gf responds with "its complicated"… Does that mean we’ve broken up or what?
To sum it up the relationship story:
We kissed our first "date"
We went out two or three times
She already said she wanted me to be with her.
So my question is… it’s been 5 days now since i’ve talked to my (ex)girlfriend. I have no idea what she’s thinking. She seems to be compromised between a break up and a relationship. I dont want to call her and scare her off… The friend who told me that actually knows her really well. But then again… should i call? if not, when should i?
Writing her is not so "in your face" or threatening. It will also peak her curiosity.
I would keep it short.
Things like: I like you. I’m thinking of you. I’d like to talk when you’re ready. I’m sorry if anything I did caused you heartache or confusion.
Good luck, man. Must of been a passionate make out session!
February 28th, 2010 at 10:46 pm
Writing her is not so "in your face" or threatening. It will also peak her curiosity.
I would keep it short.
Things like: I like you. I’m thinking of you. I’d like to talk when you’re ready. I’m sorry if anything I did caused you heartache or confusion.
Good luck, man. Must of been a passionate make out session!
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February 28th, 2010 at 11:11 pm
Well, first off, you guys rushed into something you obviously weren’t ready for.
Which everyone has done at least once, and I know how you feel.
Something like that just happened to me recently, and it realllly sucks.
Call her.
You cannot sit around letting her hurt you like that. You deserve an answer, and you shouldn’t date someone like that.
She clearly doesn’t want a relationship, so just forget about that at the moment.
Get to know her more, that’s what you should of done before.
But good luckkkk.
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February 28th, 2010 at 11:47 pm
Alright you helped me with a computer problem so I’ll try and help you with a girl problem. You gave her some space to think and she’s thanking you for that as she tries to decide what to do about you. It’s obvious that she likes you simply because she hasn’t said no yet, but she is unsure or she would have called you by now. What you need to do is simply call her and talk, perhaps arrange a casual get together to simply sit down and talk, take her to a dinner at a local restaurant, I’m thinking like a Chili’s if you have. Just sit down and have a good time, while you’re talking about your "relationship." Try and see if she knows what she wants and if she doesn’t then suggest that ya’ll take a step back in your "relationsip" and just easing back into and taking things slow. This is what worked for me and my current girl and we have been together for just shy of a year now. Good luck and thanks for your previous help.
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Personal experience.